Freaky not Flakey.
So my life seems to be spinning out of control.
- Last week of school. Which for some odd reason makes me feel like i have to give every single person at the school a gift! where does that come from?
- Leaving for 10 days, in 3 days.
- Moving out of our house in 3 weeks to D.C.
- Trying to get ready for our families first family reunion. All of our family has not been together for 7 years.
- I am in charge of the end of the year gifts for the teacher.
- Jeff graduates in 2 weeks and i have nothing to give him, and since i gave him nothing last year when he finished his residency, i am now feeling totally guilty. (but i will stay up all night and make the janitor at AK's school an end of the year gift)
So I am started to feel like a total Flake! I like to think of myself as a responsible person that follows through with what she says she will do. But of late I realize that i am cancelling everything.
So if I read your blog and don't comment, if you call me and I don't call you back, if i told you i would do something and i don't, if you see my kids running down the street with no diaper on, if i show up late (i hate being late), if i don't answer my phone (wait that is normal, i never answer my phone) if i seem scatterbrained, i am her to say... right now I am just being FREAKY, not Flakey. I am just going a little crazy right now.
any words of wisdom to keep me from jumping!
13 comments:
Let me be the first Kristi. Although I know in your heart you want to give a gift to everyone gosh darn person that you feel has affected you or your children-- you just can't. Sit down right now and decide what is most important. Prioritize who you absolutely must give gift to and be okay with the not giving to the others. And remember, a bouquet of flowers(easily picked up) or a nice note is greatly appreciated. I bet the janitor seldom even gets that. Don't waste away your last few precious days in Nashville with stress and sleepless nights trying to make your AMAZING gifts. They love you, not the gifts. They will remember your friendship most of all. Gosh, I needed to hear that MYSELF. I'll be thinking of you as I pack up.
amy. did my husband call you? i just got off the phone with him at work and he told me the same thing!
he also told me to tell him "yes sir" when he was done talking.
hmmm so maybe he was not crazy.
it must be true if a woman is saying the same thing.
i know what you are saying is true but why do i feel i must embroider the janitor a wash cloth!!!!!!!!
i want this creative curse to go away
creativity IS a curse and even when you stay up all night to finish, it doesn't turn out how you really wanted it to anyway so, just let it go! enjoy your last weeks there and BREATHE! I know I don't do that very well, but it is still good advice! :)
Oh my- Kristi, you do way more than anyone I know. I am always blown over by your extensive endeavors and amazing talents. I agree with your friend Amy...the janitor probably rarely gets end of the year gifts and would be thrilled with a nice note. Words go a long way-too,sometimes I feel thats all I have. You have a lot more people in your life that you can express your love too...especially at this crazy time in your life with the move. Hang in there and don't try to do too much. I am sure that is impossible for you, but maybe you could make it a new goal!!! Love, Heather
Don't wish away your creativity. Tasha and I were just talking about how dang crafty you are. It kills me. You just need to learn to use it in doses and for the greater good. I agree with Amy- you don't need to give a gift to everyone (although her version was much more entertaining). You need to enjoy your last weeks in TN. Don't worry.. the janitor will still know you are a super mom without the wash cloth.
I agree with Amy, its just time to prioritize and scale back. I know what its like to go way way overboard. Dave thinks I am crazy, but we don't want you to jump! Make a list of who you will genuinely regret not making something for. The rest can get gift cards or flowers, etc. Just being thought of is so nice, Amy is right, I hope you know that people really love you at the root of it, you don't have to perform to be loved, the awesome gifts are just the sugar.
I can totally relate and often make myself crazy doing the same thing. It's part of being a frustrated perfectionist and it's a nuisance.
I hope you find a little something that you can give that will make you feel like you've done something nice, but won't make you mental. Writing a nice note is always great and often means more than a bunch of crap with nothing heartfelt behind it.
I need to do something for Whitney's preschool teacher and would love a good idea though. Hee.
I wish I was as creative and thoughtful as you. I always have great intentions and make all of these to-do lists and rarely ever succeed in checking more than a couple of things off. I was just telling my husband on Saturday that i think I need to start staying up later and getting up earlier so I feel like I am not always so disorganized and running late. BUT, you see I'm not catching up on laundry and cleaning I am checking blogs for the day. It is almost 1am and I haven't done many productive things and I am going to be too exhausted tomorrow to do any of those things either.
I agree with the other comments. Don;t stress over gifts for everyone they will remeber you not the gifts. Relax and Enjoy your little bit of time left there.
Kristi, you are one person who can only do so much! I am always amazed at just how much you get done. Don't stress yourself out. It's OK to cancel things, it's OK to say, "I just can't do (fill in the blank), it's OK to let things slide--or at least ask for help. You are a great person, who, I'm sure, has impacted a lot of people in TN. I agree with Jill. Sometimes a nice note from a person one admires is more precious than anything else. Most importantly, don't kill yourself by trying to get too much done. Remember, again, you are only one person. And there is only so much time in a day!
I'm right there with you Kristi! We are in our last week of school too. Ben graduates this weekend, and on Tuesday we are leaving for 2 weeks, and when we get back we are moving two days later. Yikes, I feel your freakiness! Hang in there! I also totally agree with everything that Amy said! Good luck, and take a deep breath!
Kristi, I don't know if you would even have time for this, but you could do one big "Thank You" open house party. Both of my sister-in-laws do this at the end of every school year. The kids invite all their teachers...school, church, tutors, piano, dance etc. Then they have a brunch set out and let people come to them. You could include neighbors and babysitters. Just a thought!
You know its funny that you posted this. And i second, third or whatever to what amy says. The funny thing is I know that once you start something you can't stop. I saw a desperate housewives episode last year and Lanette (the one with 4 kids) could not figure out how all the other moms could be so crafty, clean their house, and volunteer at school. She later found out that they were all taking their kids Ritalin. Are you taking any? Just kidding I just wish sometimes wish I had your energy and crafty mind!
Did I just say wish twice? I think I need to learn to proofread!
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