Sunday, November 08, 2009

(me at age 16)

What I would say to 16 year old me!

Words can not begin to thank all of you who commented on my post on "What you would say to your 16 year old body". Your 57 comments were some of the best on my blog. I printed them out and gave them to my young women at church. I also am linking it on my sidebar if you want to use it in the future.

I have pasted them below in a post for you to use for yourself, your teenage daughter, granddaughter, church youth group.

Annie Kate randomly selected a winner and you can see who it is at the bottom of the post. Congrats 32 yards of ribbon are coming your way.

"There is a close relationship between physical health and spiritual development.
When one's physical health is impaired by disobedience to God's eternal laws,
spiritual development will also suffer."
Delbert L. Stapley {1967}

“if you could give advice to your 16 year old body

what would you say?”

The cleaner you keep yourself inside and out, spiritually and physically the better you feel about yourself.

Don't ever think you aren't beautiful, God made you look just how he wanted. He saw that it was good.

Start your healthy life style now and make sure it includes a brownie and ice cream every so often.

And I might add:
You are not fat- someday you're going to wish you had that body back :) BUT the more you tell yourself (and others) that you are fat, the more you (and they) will believe it.

I think I would also say- don't stress and obsess about boys finding you attractive. Focus your energy on looking nice for yourself and being smart and spiritual and confident. Those are attractive qualities.

Use sunscreen.
Appreciate the body you have. It's hard to believe, but you will look back and wish you had it just the way it is right now!
If you stay away from addictive substances, you will live to be so grateful that you are not enslaved in that way.
Stretch. If you keep stretching, you will never lose your flexibility.
I would tell them that quote that was in conference not too long ago about doing your best to look nice and then forgetting about yourself when you walk out the door.

Smile. Laugh. A lot! You always look prettier when you're doing these two things!

I really agree with that quote. Spiritual strength and trust in the Lord combined with a positive attitude make a young woman who is attractive to everyone.

Take good care of your skin!

I wasn't on a team when I was 16. I had to work after school. But i still kept up on my physical exercise by doing things I loved. If you aren't on a team, don't think you aren't athletic or don't have time. Just do something to be active - whatever it is you love, and do it with a friend or family member - be it walking, running, tennis, swimming, horseback riding...

Eat your veggies everyday. As you continue to age, you'll realize how critical it is to put good things into your body everyday and you'll be grateful if you did even as a teen and in college.

You don't have to spend a lot of money on hair products to have beautiful hair. Keep it trimmed, clean and conditioned. I have naturally curly hair and always longed to have lovely straight hair of my peers. Little did I understand back then (I'm 35 now) that so many people wished their straight hair was curly. We always seem to want what we don't have, but if we accept our hair, if we embrace the physical attributes that we have been given, our lives will filled with peace and beauty, inside and out. Happiness comes from taking care of, and gaining appreciation for, the beautiful bodies we have been so richly blessed with by our Heavenly Father.

I'm 40 and it's just now really sunk in that having confidence IS the best accessory! You'll always look good wearing it.

Exercise is about more than losing weight and being thin.
Exercise for physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being.

The older I am, the more I realize that the spiritual, emotional, and physical cannot be separated. Regular physical exercise is necessary for spiritual and emotional health.

Nothing new that has not already been said. Exercise is more than just about losing weight. We have to do repetitive things continually in our life. Eating, sleeping, brushing our teeth. The same goes for exercise (being fit), spiritual study, prayer etc. Find ways to make it enjoyable, and not always dependable on someone else.

get enough sleep
stay active
your body is a gift- be thrilled with it- we are NOT all supermodels, and even they aren't as perfect as they look on the outside- it really is what is inside that counts
stay out of the sun

Don't worry about boys..the right one will come along when you're not even thinking about it.

$80 for a pair of jeans is ridiculous!

Be nice to your mother. She'll be your best friend and resource in the future.

Be kind to everyone. You never know when & for what reason you may meet them again in the future.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of my advice has already been said but the main thing would be to start thinking of exercising differently.. it doesn't have to be aerobics for an hour or running a few miles- it can be anything physical so find something you really enjoy so you'll continue to do it as you get older.

Here is a quote that I love!
"Our body is…a vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” -- Buddha

I would also tell them that the world would be a bore if we were all the same and looked the same. God made each of us different for a reason!

This quote is also awesome! “Everybody is unique. Compare not yourself with anybody else lest you spoil God’s curriculum.” -- Baal Shem Tov

If they feel good about themselves then others will too!

Don't drink diet coke. (I'm sorry but you will feel better.)

Early to bed, early to rise.

Not much fun, but the sooner you embrace it the happier and healthier you'll be!

Food is not an evil thing! You need to listen to your body and take in what you need and those things you want - eat them in moderation!

Of course exercise is so important - try everything until you find what fits you- do this now because it only gets harder as you grow!

Knowledge comes in so many ways never forget that you can gain it through creativity! But the one thing that will help you through out your life is gaining knowledge of your Savior daily! As you gain this knowledge you will find the beauty that is within and on the outside.

I also think I would tell my 16 year old self to have a better relationship with my parents! If I had turned to them more I would have been spared a lot of pain. Turning to them is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of strength.

If I were to give advice to a group of young girls, besides all of the obvious such as avoid the sun, get lots of sleep, keep active, etc., I'd also advise them to find something that they enjoy doing and do it well. Excelling in something brings confidence... which brings happiness and a good self-esteem.

Don't compare yourself to others. You'll never know everything that is happening in their life.

Love and Respect your Mom and Dad. Take their advice if you love yourself, you will love them too.

Write Thank-You cards. People always remember the little things you do for them.

Serve someone everyday, it will help keep you smiling, which in turn will keep you looking young.

Don't go to extremes with exercise and nutrition. Follow the counsel of the Prophet's and Book of Mormon. Follow the Word of Wisdom.

Wash your face nightly
Remember who you are.

Know that you are a beautiful daughter of God. If you don't know that now pray to Heavenly Father for help. The power of the atonement is there to fix everything. He can help you to know that you are a beautiful, strong, amazing young woman.

I love this lesson and can't wait to give mines tomorrow. so true, as I get older I am learning these things also and the spiritual and physical.

I am 41. A confident person is beautiful. Wash your face every night before going to sleep. Eat well and don't skip meals. Your body needs fuel. Sleep is your friend. A smile is the best accessory.

Love your body! The way it moves, the way it stretches, the way it looks. Love that flat tummy with no stretch will miss her one day!

Everyone feels like they don't fit in, most of all the girls always surrounded in groups. Do not be afraid to be alone.

Be kind to the people other people laugh at; that nerdy boy will be rich one day, forget about the in crowd boys, look for personality & friendship in a boy.

I love all of the advice so far. I would add some silly stuff like don't be afraid to try different hairstyles. I wore bangs for 25 years because my mom told me I didn't have the face to pull off no bangs. One day--I decided to ignore that--best decision ever. It's just hair. It will grow back.

Also, get in the habit of exercising now. Working out every day is part of who I am. I don't even think about it because I started doing it so long ago. It's much easier to make it a habit when you're young and then when you're my age and you need to work out for so many reasons (mainly my sanity!) it will be easier.

If only I had seen this when I was 16. You have been given such good advice. So much of it we know now because we are older.

The quote that Michelle referred to from conference was something my great Aunt said to her daughter Susan Tanner. It's from the Nov. 2005 Ensign in her talk titled "The Sanctity of the Body". Awesome talk.

I concur with all the thoughts that our spiritual, physical and mental well-being are all tied together. This is something I am still learning and working on.

Enjoy being a woman and being feminine. We are supposed to be different than men. Our eternal missions are different.

I would advise them to focus on having balance in all areas of their life and to stop obsessing about their physical appearance. Gaining a testimony and being secure in their knowledge that they are a child of God will give them the confidence and beauty they need to carry them through the rest of their lives. Understanding this as a teenager would be an unbelievable asset!

I recently read my old high school journals. Besides being HILARIOUS they are also filled with a tinge of the self hatred (i'm not smart enough, not pretty enough, skinny enough, blah, blah, etc.). If I could secretly write in that journal to the 16 year old girl I once was, I'd fill it with gratitude lists, rather than lists of negativity. That way by showing my gratitude for what God had blessed me with (ie. talents, good family, gospel etc.) I could have viewed myself through a divine lens rather than a worldly one.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. When God made you He designed you just they way He wanted you to look. He picked out your nose, your hair, your eyes, everything. He loves you very much!

I love this quote my palates teacher always uses.."Treat your body as if you will live forever. Treat your soul like you will die tomorrow."

Another thing I like is to always eat food you know where it came from.

I am 15. So I know right where these girls are coming from. and it's hard. so many tears are shead through wanting the perfect appearance. And in no way am I denying that I never have wanted that, because I have. I just had to learn that I wasn't going to have the perfect body, they prettiest features or what not. But I could look at myself and love my self, I truly thing that "beauty and features get the attention, but personality and confidence captures the heart". I believe that with all my heart. Beauty really has an input, but for the most, you just being yourself just makes you beautiful!! I really hope this helps!!

Our physical bodies are a most sacred and special gift, given to us by our loving heavenly Father. They are wonderful. They are beautiful. They are our special accessory and decoration for our spirits. We have only one. We will have only one. We should rejoice that we have a body. A wonderful body. A third of our spirit brothers and sisters never received one. We are special and lucky to have a body. Keep your body in good physical condition, but above all else, keep it pure and holy. Your body houses your spirit, it protects the spirit, it is part of you. Love it, treat it kindly, take care of it. It is your Earthly Treasure.

55 glorious years!!!!

What makes a female beautiful and sexy? CONFIDENCE!
When you have confidence you:
-stand taller
-smile wider and brighter
-look people in the eye and really listen to what THEY have to say
-live your beliefs & wear them like a second skin
-help others because you are a better friend since you focus on them and are not fretting about yourself

In your teen years, don't worry about the boys. You will always have time for boys but will not always have time for yourself.

Love having your picture taken. Believe me, some day you will look back at those pictures and laugh because you forgot just how good you looked!

Everything in moderation. When it comes to food, trust the cow and not the chemist! Natural vs. additives.

Be easy on your mother! One day in the not so distant future you will find yourself wagging your index finger and saying something to your child that your mother said to you -- the very same words that today you swore YOU would never ever say to a kid of your own.

I would encourage those young girls to take a good look in the mirror. Each of their bodies is beautiful and fabulous in it's own way. If your body is not the what you wish it would, it's ok. Nobody thinks their body is perfect. Learn to love it. If you think your hair cut makes your face look funny or you think your hips are too big. Do a little research. The are so many tools on the Internet that can help you accent what you view as a negative and turn it into a positive. You are beautiful and the sooner that you can look at that and see yourself, the happier life you will lead.

Be confident in yourself. This is the best your body gets! When you are good, it makes you happy.

Also, the greatest muscle you can exercise is your brain.

And - ALL models are airbrushed. Don't compare yourself.

Take pictures with of you with your children. Don't wait until you are thinner or prettier.

use sunscreen. NO tanning beds. eat right- healthy good choices in practical amounts (NO soda, limited candy). Find a hobby that uses physical energy. Wearing less make-up is always better. Modest clothing sets a pattern for life.

French Fries are not your friend

Build your own confidence, but cause no one else can do it for you!

Smile often. Say hi to people you walk past. Be a friend to everyone.

Be brave, challenge yourself, and try the things you want to!

Look who won.
Ciria. 32 yards of yummy ribbon coming your way. email me at with your address and I will get it right out to you!


Jill said...

Congratulations to Ciria!

I hope your Young Women appreciated our advice and will take it to heart. It's so hard to listen to older people and believe that what they're warning you about might actually happen to you. An older woman was telling me to take care of my feet, to stop wearing flip-flops and wear more supportive shoes, and even though I know she's right I still don't want to have to do those things.

michelle said...

I loved your post and all of those comments. Great idea! I hope your YW really read them and hold on to them! I may have to pull this out for future reference when I get home (if I'm stil in YW, that is).

CrazeeAngee said...

I loved this post and thought it was a great idea! I don't peek into other blogs very often, but when I do, I am amazed at what I learn. Thanks Kristy! You are a peach!!

Nora from Chicago said...

Great post! How did the kids react to the advice?

TX Girl said...

My girlfriend and I were chatting about your post at the gym last week. It was great to hear all the advice. Hopefully they will take it to heart.

Nicole said...

Incredible advice....some I may have to steal for my Laurels, and myself.
PS I love your 16year old picture....:)

Julie said...

Ok- I have just been a stranger, following your blog with all of your fun ideas. But when you put this picture of your 16 year old self, you suddenly look really familiar! We're you a freshman at BYU in the fall of '89?

Alicia said...

I really loved reading all of the advice! You are fabulous!

Julie said...

I think I was in S hall? I can't believe I don't remember! I have a terrible memory. It was the most north one by the parking lot and I think there were basketball courts? What about you? And its funny- I kept referring to your dc post when planning our trip. I was so bummed that we never made it to Ben's Chili Bowl! haha! I started reading your blog because of my sister-in-law. She does Emmie Cakes banners and was part of your Pink Christmas last year.

Diane C. said...

Haven't had time to check in for a while. Wow. I am going to save this for my daughter to read when she is older. I have one tidbit I think no one remembered to state:

Always remember to forgive yourself and treat yourself kindly-- some of us grow up blessed with so much that we end up judging ourselves so much more harshly than we ever would judge another.

Ciria said...

Loved this post and I will save it for my girls! Yeah I won!